A question of lust

Trying to act upon it as much as I can

Oh you REALLY like sudoku do you March 17, 2010

Filed under: Dating Game,So Not — questionoflust @ 6:14 am
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date failWell last nights’ date wasn’t as splendid as I might have hoped.

Nice guy, but I’m sure he pulled the Jedi mind trick on me, for me to agree to go out with him.

In the non date surrounding that I met him in, he seemed nice enough and interesting, but once at the table it was a disaster…..

I agreed to meet him at the restaurant, instead of him picking me up, because I didn’t want my neighbor (walking gossip magazine) to log me in her book again ‘going out with man in silver colored car‘. Decided to wear something not too flashy or revealing…in the end he is Turkish…don’t want him to think I’m easy 😉 I love the restaurant he picked, it is one of few places in this town with amazing food, so I do compliment him on that choice.

He was a gentleman; pulling out the chair, explaining the menu to me, pretending he knew about wine etc., but after the formalities the beer went flat! We had nothing to talk about….well that is not completely true…I am now an expert on SUDOKU!

Apparently he is very much into solving these puzzles and can talk about it, without breathing/eating/drinking for a very long time. I was surprised he didn’t pull out a pocket sudoko booklet so we could solve one together! I tried to move into other conversation topics by linking to the whole puzzle theme….”so if you like puzzles does it also relate to movies? I like movies like that, you know Memento…Seven” or “wow you are really into numbers, you could be on that TV show solving crimes!..do you know it?” and “I’m not that good with numbers…more the pictures & colors type…painting by numbers I could do!…What else do you like?“.

At some point I jokingly (but seriously) mentioned his food was getting cold, and that was I guess when he figured out he had talked himself into the ‘delete from phone’ category, and next to the steak, we could now also cut the tension with a knife.

While he’s trying to avoid my look and semi casually looks around the restaurant, I think this situation has to come to a pleasant end as soon as possible and I open my back up back up back up topic….football. At least that made us chat for at least half an hour without any awkwardness and gave me the perfect exit….

I have to go, English football is on tonight, I missed the match but I’d like to see the re-caps if you don’t mind

See football is my ultimate back up in this country…I don’t even like football, but Turks do and almost every night there is some match on TV. It is ALWAYS the perfect excuse to go 😉

 

Go for the kill, or play coy? March 15, 2010

Filed under: One night stands,So Hot,Speaking in Tongues — questionoflust @ 4:45 pm
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go for the kill or not?I met a nice guy…
Usually I’m not into ‘town’ guys as they can’t keep their mouths shut. And if residing in this country has taught me something, it is that it is more important what people think you do, than what you actually do. Gossip flourishes here and sometimes that can work in your favor, but usually in my case it doesn’t.

Anyway this guy…he’s educated, speaks eloquently, has a great sense of humor and is not all over me like a cheap suit. Which of course means I am really interested in pursuing him!
Not sure what strategy to go with here though, should I just be my forward and straight self, or should I be the less aggressive me and let him make a clear move first?

Of course I have already pictured in my head how it would be…..and it would be amazing!
We’d go for a nice dinner and we’ll have stimulating and clever conversation. Afterward we’ll go for a drink or maybe some dancing (however he doesn’t strike me as a dancer) and at that point I’ll decide if he can come home or not. I haven’t figured that part out yet in my mind!

For now I think I’ll leave it be… maybe I should accidentally bump into him some more to get a better feel of the situation 😉