I have learned a long time ago, I am extremely poor when it comes to giving advice to Turkish girls…..or mindset is just different and most of the time any advice I give fails…much like my own serious love life 🙂
Anyway, we end up talking about a topic that seriously fascinates me here in this country; getting married young and secret relationships with people parents disapprove of.
She explains to me, like many others have that it is just seriously frowned upon to have a sexual relationship with anybody before marriage. However this is changing, and it is much the village and mountain folk that still hang on to this. Strangely enough it also goes for families that are in a good position or come from money.
She continues that as a girl things are weird…on one hand family pushes you to get educated and an university degree, and once you have one, you should get married as soon as possible and start a family. Turkish girls lash out in all sorts of ways….MySpace is full of them 😉
“So what do you do” I ask “What do you do if you can’t have any sexual relations because you should enter marriage as a virgin“. Well apparently there are plenty of ways to have sex and in your mind still be a virgin…She tells me it is very common that you don’t have sex the regular way, up the bum is much better and your ‘virginity’ stays in tact.
I choke on my cappuccino…..up the backdoor?!?!?! what…with just any guy?!?!
Call me a prude, but that to me that is a special place…entry is not common, and access is only granted to a select few. All of a sudden it dawns on me that this is why some of the guys I slept with immediately went for the back side, only to be told off by me if anything bigger than a finger came close.
Wow…I hadn’t been shocked by anything in a long time…I now look at the cash register girl from the supermarket with completely different eyes!!